And just like that, the year comes to an end! I’d be lying if I said 2018 wasn’t one of the best years of my life. I got married to my best friend, I enrolled with IIN, I continued to grow my blog, I made some new friends and made great strides in my relationship with myself. The year was filled with so much joy, positivity and growth, but also filled with a lot of self-realizations and new found awareness.
I’m pretty sure I started writing/drafting this “end of the year” blog post at least 5 times in the last 3 weeks; and each time, I’d end up distracted or I’d just erase it all together because it felt too… self-helpy, maybe? I don’t know, it just felt.. forced. If I’m being honest, that was a recurring theme this year. I’d start going in a direction with something, only to either get distracted by another task/endeavor or I’d get stuck in my own head, or I’d realize I was doing something because I felt like I should. Becoming aware of my “should”ing nature was rather eye-opening.
By nature, I’m a total procrastinator; managing to get A’s on papers written hours before they were due. Thus, I’m not entirely surprised that I’m sitting and writing this at 6 am on the 31st. But I realized, I still wanted to share reflections on the year, but in a way that felt most authentic to me. So rather than give you a manicured piece with my experiences converted to lessons, I just want to share with you some realtime thoughts that come up when I just sit and think about the highlights, realizations, and areas for growth of the year.
- Life is too short to drink bad coffee. I started experimenting with better beans, slower brewing methods and stopped adding collagen. It’s added so much joy to my morning coffee ritual. PS: nothing wrong with drinking your coffee with half and half.
- You save a lot of money when you stop focusing so much on wellness trends and buzz-y products. There is a time and place for different products and supplements, but you definitely don’t need to be using all the things. Research and honesty with self is key.
- Weddings can be stressful, but they don’t have to be stressful. I give myself praise for working on my stress management prior to being deep in the throws of wedding planning. I vowed to not sweat small things, especially in the weekend of the wedding and it made me feel so much more present and joyful. Brides: don’t neglect mental/emotional health.
- There are tides in life, and it’s better to ride with the flow than to fight the current. From my routines to my creativity to my motivation, everything had ebbs and flows and I found it best to just lean in to what my intuition was using for instead of pushing it in the direction of a “should.”
- Today is as good a time as tomorrow to start doing something. Something I can still work on, but have gotten better with. Not needing the permission of a new day to start a new habit or activity. Why not just do it today?
- Quality is better than quantity in the content of just about everything.
- Why did we stop valuing good old fashioned walks as exercise? Note to self: Keep walking in 2019.
- Creativity should not be silenced. I started crafting more intentionally this year and I’m not sure how I lived the last 26 years without it. Something feels so soulful about making something with your hands and either placing it in your own home or knowing that it’s brightening someone elses.
- What works for others won’t necessarily work for me. This is true for most things. I live, eat, move and create in a way that feels best for myself.
- It’s okay to not complete your to-do list all the time. Life is what’s happening through every minute of every day. Stop treating life like a destination and soak in what’s happening in the now. It’s possible to look forward to the excitement of the future, but not at the expense of living in the present.
Highlights of 2018:
- Corey and I’s Wedding Weekend
- IIN Health Coaching Program
- My sister returned from 2 year service trip
- I started a crafting business
Areas for Growth:
- Time management
- Keeping my eyes on my own path/ No should’s
Going in to 2019, I’ve set just a couple of intentions. I have yet to set specific goals because I don’t think I need to have goals set by the arbitrary date of January 1st. I typically see the entire month of January as a time to plan and set intentions and a tone for the year. Something new I’m trying in 2019 is choosing a word for the year, thus I have chosen the word OPEN. I’m setting the intention to be open — to growth, connections, opportunity, abundance, financial stability, change, the uncomfortable, to learning and more.
I’m beyond excited to see what unfolds for my life personally and professionally through the coming year. I look forward to the continued growth and to build upon the positive changes made in the previous year. Thank you so much for being a supporter of Minding My Soul, and of me. It means a lot to know that what I share here might inspire or impact you in a positive way.
To wrap up, I just want to leave you with one thing: Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to make major changes and set giant goals as you enter the new year. Instead, simply ask yourself: how do I want to feel this year? Let the answer to that guide you in deciding what small changes along the way might best suit you and your life.
Wishing you the happiest of New Years, friends.